How Becoming A Mom Is Like Being Elected President

I was looking through some pictures the other day from when Sean was first born and what I was struck by is how much younger I looked only five short years ago.  And how tired I look now.  And then I was reminded of how young and vibrant and hopeful each new president looks when they take office and how four years later, they’ve aged a decade.

And then it dawned on me that becoming a mom is not that much different than being elected president.

You go into it all fresh faced and hopeful and it’s not long before the honeymoon period is over and the world is questioning and criticizing every decision you make.

You go into it convinced you can change the world and it’s not long before you realize that there is only so much you can do when no one will cooperate.

You go into it with your all out liberal or conservative ideologies and it’s not long before you find yourself somewhere in the center so that you might get something done.

You go into it thinking you understand the magnitude of the task, but once you get there you realize you’ve underestimated it by a power of 10.

Nothing you’ve ever done before can prepare you for what lies ahead.

Seven days a week, 24-hours a day, you’re on the clock.

There is a great deal of heartburn and the pay is lousy.

You won’t really know if you’ve done a good job until about 20 years after the fact.

It’s a remarkable opportunity and worth every wrinkle and gray hair.

43 thoughts on “How Becoming A Mom Is Like Being Elected President

  1. My sister reommended your blog to me. I have really liked what I have read so far! This post is great. I just posted a picture of me on my blog after 99 months of being a mom. I definately look older than I did 8 years ago. But I guess I am older, and wiser – yeah, that’s right.


  2. My 7YO said to me today, “I can’t wait until I’m the parent and can boss everyone else around.”

    Mmm-hmmm. I had to tell him about the “not listening to a word he’ll say” part too.

    I remember in my pre-kid days thinking that working with kids was like working with little adults. Give the instruction, the kid does it, the end.



  3. Oh yes, very true. The parallels are remarkable. I always said I would never in a million years be President and I stick to that resolve. The verdict is still out on the parenting gig. I’ve yet to really decide if I’m fit for the job.


  4. So true, so true. Mine are 15 and 17 and I’m still wondering if I’m doing it right!
    Good luck, and keep your sense of humor.
    Hugs, Laura


  5. So true in so many ways. I always feel some sympathy for presidents knowing that in a mere 4 years they’ll look a decade older.

    I’ve always wondered if my own aging process was accelerated by becoming a mom or if the timing was somewhat coincidental (I’m an antique mommy, too), But while I’d never give up being a mom I would never want the job of president. Give me those handprints on my freshly cleaned windows, crumbs and legos everywhere, chocolate kisses, and even the eyeroll every now and then. I’ll take those anyday.


  6. Oh, well said, well said.
    I’m leaving this post up for my husband to read! 🙂 (He’s NOT the president. 🙂 )


  7. 20 years after the fact, knowing if you did a good job……how true!!
    The pay is lousy……exactly.

    I say all of the time, “If this were a paying job, I would have quit long ago.”


  8. I looked like a BABY myself when I was pregnant the first time. it’s kind of funny.

    And your poor presidents DO age so fast! The only difference in our pm is that his hair appears to be getting more and more plastic every single day – perhaps it’s not as hard of a gig.


  9. I’m there too. The slideshow screensaver that pops up on the PC here when it’s idling cycles through some older pictures of myself, pre-Michael, and it’s easy to see the difference. I insist I had more hair then, and less paunch.


  10. My definition of Good Writing is when the author draws an important but previously unrecognized thought from inside of the reader that allows her to have an “a-ha” moment and an immediate connection with the writer. You, Antique Mommy, are a Good Writer.


  11. You’ve heard the old saying that you never stop worrying about your children? Well, it’s true. And wait until the grandbabies come, you worry about them too. That’s when you really get gray and wrinkled. But it is worth every stinking minute. 🙂


  12. Remarkably similar! I heard that a mother loses three years off her life for every male child she raises. I guess I am at minus 9 so far!


  13. Ha, I thought it was only me who noticed how fast presidents age. Mr. Obama already looks a tad grayer than he did in the fall. Of course, I have also acquired a lot of gray in the last few years (though I prefer to think it’s silver).


  14. We also go into motherhood making many promises that get broken within days. Like:

    I’m going to use cloth diapers. (The only cloth diaper we ever used were burp cloths.)

    My child will never wear cowboy boots with shorts in July.

    I will never feed my children milkshakes for supper.

    My child will never watch tv, eat sugar, or have a toy gun….

    I will never sit in the bathroom and pretend I don’t hear my child knocking on the door.


  15. Oh my goodness! I’ve only been into this motherhood thing now for 2 weeks and can attest to this post…lots of adjusting going on in this household, that’s for sure! Thanks for the constant reminders that it’s all worth it! 🙂


  16. Yes, I agree with Sarah a couple of comments above. Where are the staff?

    I’ve tagged you on my blog. I’m not sure if this is your kind of thing, but I think you might like it. I won’t be at all offended if you don’t pick up the tag.


  17. This also applies to teachers. Oh my. .. does it ever. And, unfortunately, each summer vacation brings back a little pep to our step so that we face each new school year with the same hope and zeal. . .only to be completely overcome by October.


  18. Great post! There are certainly similarities. Add in dealing with the in-laws and how they think you should raise your kids vs. the President dealing with all the other countries and how they think he should run this one!


  19. Putin giggles and smells a bit like peanut butter.

    Classic. Classic is what that is.

    I’m constantly amazed at how quickly my kids have grown and changed, and then I look in the mirror, and I’m always surprised that I’ve changed too. Other than being haggard, I feel the same. 🙂


  20. Great analogy. Maybe it is time for a woman president; if she’s been a mom she’s already ahead of the game.

    I think you are right. Whom would you recommend?


  21. What a great analogy! I blogged about being compared to Mr. Obama a few days after the inauguration. There are indeed quite a few similarities! Loved your perspective!


  22. …but presidents don’t get the same benefits a mother gets – peanut-butter-scented hugs & sloppy kisses & wild giggles & wrestling matches…

    Oh I don’t know. I’ve heard Putin giggles and smells a little bit like peanutbutter.


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